I suppose this post marks my triumphant return to the blogosphere – I’ve been out of commission working on a project that left me with little time for contemplating the 18th C. self or anything else.
I recently had a conversation with a friend of mine, who posted a bit of written text on his facebook page. He later made some comments about how he noticed that, without asking for feedback or advice on what he’d written, people had provided feedback and comments. When I asked him about this, he told me that he believes, and the training he’s had indicates, that unless people directly ask for advice and feedback, they likely do not want advice or feedback on what they’ve provided. It’s an interesting point, but it makes me believe that maybe he has a conception of public discourse that I cannot even fathom. When I make a post, I offer it for public consumption, and understand that part of public consumption is that people will provide feedback. A public post like this, or like the one he made, in my mind, is a invitation to comment – you put it out there, I think, because you want feedback or advice, or even if you don’t want feedback or advice, you can’t be surprised if you get it. I liken it to having a conversation with a good friend who studies in a completely different field. When I talk to her about something I’m working on, that, in my mind, is an acknowledgment that, should she have any advice or input or feedback or critique of my idea, my opening up the door to it in the first place invites her comments. I never feel like she waits for me to ask her for her feedback, if she has something to say, she says it. The same, I think, rings true for our less academic and more private conversations. If I go out of my way to discuss something with her, and she has input, then I think I’ve created a space for her to provide that feedback or input or advice. There must be a way for us to implicitly ask for feedback without being forced to say “now I would like some feedback”. In a scholarly context, if I never tell anyone about my ideas, then no one has a right to comment on their validity. The second I present that paper, or teach that class, or whatever, I’ve given my ideas over to the public, and the public has a right to respond.
It’s just interesting that someone can have a completely different idea of what posting something in a public forum is for. He maintains that he was simply supplying some information he’d been asked for by several people, for them to do with as they will. It’s interesting that you would enter something into a public forum, but not want a public discussion of it. It’s almost counter-instinctive to me, and yet he clearly believes that our society is spending so much time advising and not enough time just listening. He might be right, but part of listening is to actively engage with what’s being said, though I do agree with him that sometimes, when that feedback is unhelpful or mean-spirited, it might be best just to keep our mouthes shut. It seems that if he wants us to spend more time listening, he would want to start by spending time listening to what people are saying about what he says, rather than not asking for feedback on his ideas.
